Why does man suppress so much and become unhealthy? Because society teaches you to control, not to transform, and the way of transformation is totally different.
First thing: in controlling, you repress, in transformation, you express. But there is no need to express on somebody else because the ‘somebody else’ is just irrelevant. Next time you feel angry, go and run around the house seven times, and then sit under a tree and watch where the anger has gone. You haven’t repressed it, nor have you thrown it on somebody else. If you throw it on somebody else, a chain is created, because the other is as foolish as you, and he will react. He will throw more anger on you, he is repressed as much as you are. Then, it becomes a chain - you throw on him, he throws on you, and you both become enemies.
Don’t Pass It On
Anger is something you have ingested and your whole psychic being wants to throw it out. But there is no need to chuck it out on somebody…instead, you can go to your bathroom or you can go on a long walk. It means that something inside needs fast activity so that it is released. Just do a little jogging and you will feel it is released, or take a pillow and beat it, fight with the pillow, and bite the pillow until your hands and teeth are relaxed. Within a five-minute catharsis, you will feel unburdened, and once you know this, you will never throw it on anybody, because that is absolutely foolish.
The first thing is transformation, then is to express anger, but not on anybody, because if you express it on somebody, you cannot express it totally. You may like to kill, but it is not possible; you may like to bite, but it is not possible. But that can be done to a pillow. A pillow means “already enlightened”. The pillow will not react; the pillow will not go to any court; the pillow will not bring any enmity against you; and the pillow will not do anything. The pillow will be happy, and it will only laugh at you.
Be Open And Aware
The second thing to remember: be aware. In controlling, no awareness is needed; you simply do it mechanically, like a robot. The anger comes and there is a mechanism, suddenly your whole being becomes narrow and closed. If you are watchful, control may not be so easy.
Society never teaches you to be watchful, because when somebody is watchful, he is wide open. That is part of awareness; one is open, and if you want to suppress something and you are open, it is contradictory, it may come out. Society teaches you how to close yourself in, how to cave yourself in, and not allow even a small window for anything to go out.
But remember, when nothing goes out, nothing comes in either. When anger cannot go out, you are closed. If you touch a beautiful rock, nothing goes in; you look at a flower, nothing goes in: your eyes are dead and closed. You kiss a person, nothing goes in, because you are closed. You live an insensitive life.
Let Sensitivity Grow
Sensitivity grows with awareness. Through control, you become dull and dead - that is part of the mechanism of control: if you are dull and dead, then nothing will affect you, as if the body has become a citadel, a defence. Nothing will affect you, neither insult nor love.
But this control comes at a great cost. The whole effort of control takes all your energy, and then you simply die. And the life becomes a dull and dead thing; you somehow carry it on.
The society teaches you control and condemnation, because a child will control only when he feels something is condemned. Anger is bad; everything that has to be controlled has to be made to look like a sin to the child, to look like evil....
Anger is beautiful, but beautiful things can go ugly. That depends on you. If you condemn them, they become ugly; if you transform them, they become divine. Anger transformed becomes compassion, because the energy is the same.
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