Wednesday 14 August 2013

Are you getting enough attention from the person you love? By: Sugandhi Iyer

Are you getting enough attention from the person you love?

This question was put to me and I thought that it is best answered through this blog so that others can read and apply it to themselves, if that is what they need/want.

Some times it happens that you put in more love and energy into a  relationship  than the other person. You send more SMS's, emails, make more calls, arrange more meetings, etc.

The other person, and in this case let's assume that it is your partner, say "Jack", puts in much less effort and when you demand more attention, Jack pretends as if he does not understand what you  mean, because he is giving it all that he's got, which in your estimate is not enough.

What should you do?

1. Stop asking/fighting for it?
2. Ask more, fight more?
3. Pretend that all is okay? And that you are the one who is being unreasonable in even wanting more attention?
4. Find someone else?

From the above options, what approach suits you the most?

The person who is not giving you enough attention is probably pushing your buttons and you are reacting, feeling insecure.

Your self-worth is getting hurt and it does not feel good to be in that relationship.

Here is a question for you. How is your relationship with your SELF?

Do you stand in front of the mirror and praise yourself?

Do you buy yourself a massage and other nice things?

Are you your own Valentine?

Everyone else is a mirror to you. How you treat yourself matters.

Do you go to the gym and keep your promises of eating right?

Are you happy?

Try this for sometime and you will find that your universe changes to keep up with you and show you how beautiful and special you really are.

Love yourself completely.

I'm not talking about being selfish. As you love yourself more, you will have more love to give others.

Establish the best relationship with your SELF and watch the world change around you.

Love and light
Sugandhi Iyer
Author and Success Coach

Have you read Joyful Manifestation yet?




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